Have Student Say Something Nice To The Student They Called A Name

Why should I do it:

• Way of empowering the student
• Prevents power struggle
• Teaches correct and expected behaviors
• Teaches student problem solving skills
• Teaches empathy and compassion
• Provides a better alternative than punitive consequences
• Benefits and validates the victim
• Provides resolution to student conflicts
• Teaches students how to interact and socialize

When should I do it:

• When a student is reluctant to do something
• When a student says something that obviously upset another student significantly
• When a student makes a remark to another student without really knowing the significance of what they said or the word(s) they used
• When a student is bullying another student
• When a student has been disrespectful toward an adult

How do I do it:

• Speak in calm, neutral tone.
• Provide the student with choices
  • For example. You can apologize to Johnny for calling him a name, or you will need to flip your card
• Have the student face the student they are apologizing to and look at them
• Have the student say specifically to the other student what they are sorry for
• Have the student say they will not do it again after apologizing
• Have the victim accept or not accept the apology verbally
  • If the apology is not accepted, tell the child that is okay and it was good and right that they apologized and perhaps the other child would accept the apology later